Why do some people like to talk so much about there problems and drama in there life?
The answer is that we are beings of energy and we draw energy from each other. Most of the time this is an unconscious act and we do it until we feel recharged again. You could be a vampire yourself without knowing it, but the good news is you can change that. It is only a pattern that you may have followed for several years and you identify yourself with but it is also something that you can change very easy.
Have you ever noticed a person entering a room and suddenly all the good energy seems to be drained? You have met an energy vampire. They are people who carry around a lot of pain, problems unresolved issues and they yet haven’t figured out how to deal with them. It is not your responsibility to help them in fact, they need to help themselves. Here is where you need to set boundaries, so that you don’t give all your energy away and feel drained and tired or even angry after meeting them.
First of all let’s look at the different types of energy vampires.
- There is the “Poor Me” character that likes to talk about there issues and draws attention to them that way. They usually have very low self esteem and blame the situation and or other people for their misery. Don’t buy into there story, you need to protect yourself here and the best way to do so is to remain positive and stay present. Let them speak their pain but stay fully aware and don’t give them anything to feed on. Most of the times they get bored really quick and move on, or they actually get a glimps of healing happening because your awareness mirrors theirs and they might become a bit more concious of the present moment and stop.
- Then there is the “Drama Queen/King” who wears you down by creating drama and telling stories about how the world has done them wrong. It always comes back to you staying present as much as you can and not get involved in their drama. That will stop them.
- The “Narcissist” is someone that talks a big game and gets you involved into their story but you will always find yourself coming second because the world is turning around them. They’re dangerous because they lack empathy and have a limited capacity for love. If you don’t do things their way, they become punishing, withholding, or cold. Stay away from these kind of people or if you have to be with them try not to get too involved because they are emotionally limited people. Again practise awareness. It is key.
- The “Controller” like the word says is trying to control yourself and every situation. They have an opinion about everything and control you by invalidating your emotions if they don’t fit into their rule book. The trick here is never try to control a controller. Stay focused and speak your truth without offending them and move on.
These are all characteristics of unconscious people and all I am trying to do is make you more aware of who you surround yourself with. The best friend is someone that can tell you your flaws without taking a side to it. But I think it is important to have people in your life that try and get the better out of you not the other way around. Everyone needs a friend and a real friend is worth more than 1000 mates or colleges. I only have 3 in my life and I feel blessed that I have these beings in my life and we can share this amazing journey called life together. On that note thanks for reading and until next time.